How does grief alter when you are a new parent after a loss? Everyday I look at my son and thank god to have such a beautiful, healthy child that melts my heart.
1.There is guilt. Guilt for the feeling of replacing your deceased child. Of course there is no replacement. Julia was a girl, a different energy, personality. There is guilt for times of mourning when you don't want to upset a toddler or small child. It's time to "put on your game face" and put your emotions in your pocket. Someday, I will tell him about his sister.
2. You begin to realize your're not alone and it was most likely not your fault, even though you may not still believe it.
3. You may be an overprotective parent. You want nothing to happen to them and as long as you can control them at this age you will do whatever possible to shield them from getting hurt, being sad, etc
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Your loss may have changed the way in which you live your life. For me, there is nothing in the world as valuable to me as my family. I could care less about material things, money, and any kind of desire that is going to distract me from what I have. I find pleasure in the simple things and of course every moment I can spend with my son.
